It’s been a while Fab Fam! I’ve missed writing and catching up with you all…but I’ve been a tad bit busy with my new addition, baby KJ! He is officially 1 month old now, and I have so much to share with you all! l have some notes…or just things and feelings that I’ve noted as a new mother. I’m sure some of you can relate to some of these feelings, whether you’re a mom or not! So let’s just get into it…

  1. Speed and efficiency are KEY! When it comes to dealing with a newborn, speed is everything! As soon as that baby is sound asleep, everything that needs to be done, will need to be done quickly. There’s no room for errors! lol For example, a newborn can sleep for 3 hours or 5 minutes, and if you plan to take a shower, that shower isn’t going to be a long and luxurious shower unless someone else is with the baby. But please believe that a 5 minute shower can still feel amazing and luxurious all the same. Being clean will feel incredible.
  2. Everyone has an opinion…and that’s great, but that doesn’t mean every opinion is valid for what you’re going through. Same with advice. Advice is great and appreciated (for the most part), but all advice doesn’t work for every mother.
  3. Set boundaries with your body. Some people are more comfortable showing skin and body parts than others. Personally, I’m not that comfortable showing a lot of skin. Some people will assume that you being a mother now means you are comfortable showing skin. No ma’am that isn’t the case all of a sudden. For example, maybe a more experienced mom wants to help you with breastfeeding and will expect you to show her how your baby latches. If you’re not comfortable with this…don’t do it! In the hospital especially, you will have MANY nurses coming to check on you constantly (feels like every 5 minutes), offering medicine, assistance with the baby, assistance with breastfeeding, etc. If you need some alone time, set that boundary!
  4. Organization goes a long way. Having everything you need to change a diaper handy is necessary. Having the baby’s bag packed long before it’s time to go will alleviate stress. These may sound like simple tasks, but they don’t feel so simple when there’s a crying baby in your arms while you’re trying to quickly pack a bag to get out of the house.
  5. Time can get away from you. This app I use called BabyConnect helps me stay organized and consistent with scheduling feedings and keeping track of diapers and nursing and everything I need. It’s really a lifesaver.
  6. Bodily fluids will no longer freak you out. You will get peed on. Pooped on. Spit up everywhere. It won’t even phase you after a short period of time.
  7. Breastfeeding SUCKS…and so does pumping! Pumping reminds me of a cow. Breastfeeding and pumping happen so often at this point, that it feels like I’m constantly attached to something. At first it’s not a joyful experience. It still isn’t for me, but I can say that it’s getting a little easier and less annoying every day. I’m sure once I stop nursing, I will miss the feeling of physically bonding with my baby by nursing, but right now I don’t enjoy this feeling.
  8. Breastfeeding can be stressful. At first my baby did not latch well. In fact, his latch was incredibly aggressive and not wide enough. This caused my nipples to bleed which was beyond painful, but it was also stressful because of course my baby needed to eat. Fast forward to 4 weeks later, my nipples healed, his latch improved and nursing is becoming easier and less stressful but it’s only stress-free when I am completely 100% sure that he has had enough milk at each feeding, and I am on a consistent schedule…which doesn’t seem to happen often.
  9. Don’t expect to sleep whenever the baby sleeps. Before having the baby, I was told to sleep whenever the baby sleeps…that advice is just unrealistic. If you have chores to fulfill around the house, or a job…you will need to use some of that precious baby nap time to get things done!
  10. Laundry feels endless. Between wanting to keep everything clean and sanitized, and poop and pee getting everywhere…I feel like the laundry never ends.
  11. Driving with a newborn is pretty scary at first. Having a mirror that lets you see your baby in the backseat is essential, but it doesn’t alleviate the stress of not being able to reach your baby’s pacifier from the front seat while you’re on the highway, and while the baby is crying.
  12. Somehow a sleeping baby can almost always tell when they are no longer being held in your arms…and as soon as they are not touched…THEY WAKE UP! All that rocking and walking you just did to make them go to sleep,…yea, you may need to do it all over again, a few times.
  13. I LOVE MY SON! I can’t even put into words how much I love my little man. I still can’t believe I created life…and I’m so thankful that I did.
  • Ok, that’s it for now. I’m sure there will be another post soon with more notes and findings. Can any moms out there relate with any of these notes? Any objections?